Dating in the digital age has become easier with so many apps and services to choose from. By the end of 2023, it was reported that 441 million people were using dating apps actively, generating around $8.7 billion in revenues globally through matchmaking services.
The
appeal of dating apps is that you’re not limited by geography. You can meet
people online in your city or in another country; you get to see how they look
like from their profiles; find out their interests; and if you begin chatting,
you can judge if you’re compatible enough to go on a first date.
Many
Filipinos have fallen victim to romance scams, among other fakery proliferating
online. Now there’s a Facebook page that crowdsources information and
experiences so that you can be more aware about scams. Called Online Alerto, it’s
a Facebook community page dedicated to the dissemination of invaluable
insights, resources, and strategies related to digital literacy, cybersecurity,
and responsible online behavior.
Acting
as a collaborative platform, it facilitates members in validating their online
purchases and transactions while fostering an environment where personal
experiences are exchanged to help enhance online safety and awareness among all
members. Online Alerto is absolutely free—all you need to do is join the
community page to raise your own awareness about cybercrimes.
While
identity theft and hacking are the leading cybercrimes globally, love scams are
rapidly on the rise. In
Southeast Asia, these crimes have two victims: those deceived by the scam and
those that are trafficked into doing the scams.
Online
Alerto has pooled resources on the internet for warnings and tips on avoiding
love scams.
Avoid
these red flags
- · The
person expresses strong emotions and love for you very quickly, often within
days or weeks of initial contact.
- · They
quickly ask you to leave a dating service or social media site to communicate
directly on WhatsApp or SMS, where they can manipulate you more easily.
- · If an
individual attempts to isolate you from friends and family or requests
inappropriate photos or financial information, they could later blackmail you
or extort money from you.
- · When
you make plans to meet in person, they always come up with an excuse why they
can’t.
- · They ask for money for various reasons such as travel expenses, medical emergencies, or business opportunities. This is often the biggest and most obvious red flag.
- · They
tell you stories to elicit sympathy, such as being widowed, having a sick
child, or facing some urgent crisis.
- · They
ask you many personal questions, but they avoid sharing their personal details
or give information that cannot be verified such as a home address or
workplace.
What
scammers say to hook you in
"I
or someone close to me is sick, hurt, or in jail."
"I
can teach you how to invest."
"I'm
in the military far away."
"I
need help with an important delivery."
"We've
never met, but let's talk about marriage."
"I've
come into some money or gold."
"I'm
on an oil rig or ship."
"You
can trust me with your private pictures."
Ways to protect yourself
- · Reverse
search the person’s photo by using online searches like Google Images.
- · Be
careful what you post and make public online. Scammers use details shared on
social media and dating sites to better understand and target you.
- · Maintain
a healthy level of skepticism, especially if things seem too good to be true.
- · Suggest
a video call early in your communication.
- · Check
their social media profiles for consistency with what they've told you. Look
for a reasonable number of friends, photos, and posts over time. A lack of
social media presence or a newly created profile can be a red flag.
- · If you
decide to meet in person, choose a public place and inform a friend or family
member about your plans. Ensure the person you meet matches their online
presence.
- · Some dating apps offer identity verification features, like blue checkmarks, to indicate users who have verified their identity through the app.
Join Online Alerto on Facebook to better protect yourself from romance and
other scams and learn from other people’s experiences.
